Not sure about buying a sex toy?
Tips and DIY Alternatives
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If you’re not sure that you’re ready to take the leap into buying sex toys, you’re not alone! Many who find themselves interested in the concept of adult toys still struggle to overcome the stigma around owning them, especially when it comes to male toys. Others simply don’t want to spend upwards of $100 on a high-quality sex toy – it’s not as if you can give it a test run first!
So, what are the benefits of sex toys, and why should you invest in one? And if you don’t have the spare cash to invest in one, is it possible to make a homemade fleshlight? Keep reading to find out!
Why should I buy a sex toy?
If you’re single, the idea of buying a sex toy might have interested you at one point or another – whether you’re bored of using your hands or simply miss the sensation of real sex. But, what are the benefits of owning a sex toy, and are sex toys worth it when it comes to the cost?
Benefits of owning a sex toy
Better understand your desires and turn-ons
When you have control over your pleasure with the help of a sex toy, you can better understand your turn-ons and what feels good: being single is a great time to experiment with sex toys as you can test out several toys without the pressure to orgasm or without the pressure of pleasing your partner.
Enhanced endurance
While male sex toys tend to be stigmatized, certain male sex toys can actually help your sexual endurance and lead to a better performance in the bedroom. Sex toys such as a male edger or a fleshlight can help you feel more confident in your stamina and in your body, and increased confidence = better sex.
Enjoy a more varied sex life
When you’re in a relationship, it’s normal to want to switch things up from time to time to keep your sex life interesting. The same applies to your single sex life: just because you’re not in a relationship, it doesn’t mean that you don’t have a sex life! Your single sex life is just as important as any sex life shared with a partner: it’s important to remain connected with your body and enjoy sexual pleasure during periods of singledom. With sex toys, you can enjoy more variety when masturbating: you can use a fleshlight to simulate real sex, or a blowjob machine to replicate the intense sensations of oral! Masturbating with hands can be monotonous, and for some can even be difficult, so enlist the help of a sex toy and make your solo sex life 100% easier.
Help with sexual dysfunction
If you struggle with erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, or any other sexual dysfunction that you’d like to change, you can help treat your problem with the help of sex toys. Sex toys allow you to attempt to remedy your problem without the pressure of a third party. You can use your sex toys to practice edging to increase stamina or simply enhance your sexual desire (and erections) with varied sensations.
Best Beginner Sex Toys
If you’re looking to buy your first sex toy, you might want to opt for some of these beginner-friendly options. These toys are easy to use while still promising mind-blowing results, whether you use them alone or with a partner.
Fleshlight
A fleshlight is a discreet sex toy that is used to simulate the very same sensations of penetrative sex with a vagina, although some more advanced fleshlight toys come with anus openings too. A fleshlight is a great beginner toy as it might be a sensation that you’re familiar with already, so won’t take too long to get yourself habituated. You can use a fleshlight to enhance your sexual stamina, practice edging, or simply enjoy the life-like sensations of a real vagina, anus, or mouth!
Blowjob machine
Who doesn’t love oral sex? If your go-to favorite is a bit of oral action, you can enjoy that sensation any time you want with a high-quality blowjob machine. These machines are certainly more advanced than a fleshlight but remain simple and easy to use. Some machines come with warming features, facial features and some are even interactive! You can use a blowjob machine to
Cockring
A cock ring is a great beginner sex toy, not only because it works wonders on any penis, but because it can be used by both couples and singles. A cock ring will help increase your sexual stamina and make your penis harder for longer – what’s not to love?
We-Vibe Melt
The We Vibe melt is a vibrator for women. It stimulates the clitoris with air pulses and a gentle suction. It is slim and contains 12 pre-programmed levels of intensity. It can be remote controlled by phone via a bluetooth or wifi connection.
Are sex toys worth it?
When it comes to buying sex toys, it’s important to know what you’re looking for. Many sex toys carry a hefty price tag, so if you’re not sure about what you’re looking for, don’t rush in and buy the most expensive sex toy on the market. You can even make some sex toys at home if you’re not totally sold on the concept, such as a homemade fleshlight or homemade pocket pussy.
How to make a homemade pocket pussy
If you’re not sure about investing in a fleshlight just yet and want to make sure you’ll enjoy the sensations, why not learn how to make a homemade pocket pussy? The concept of a homemade pocket pussy (or a homemade fleshlight) is pretty simple: you need a tube, lube, and some cushioning! Simply find an item that can be used to replicate the cylindrical shape of the fleshlight, soften it with some cushioning (a sponge, latex gloves, all will depend on the material of your fleshlight tube), and add some water-based lube.
You can make a homemade fleshlight using the following materials:
Tube:
● A Pringles can
● Dishtowel
● Roll of toilet paper with inner cardboard tube removed
● Large water bottle
● Squishy football (yes, really!)
Cushioning:
● Socks and tights
● Latex gloves
● Sponges
● Pillows (preferably not the ones you sleep on!)
Lubes:
● A great water-based lube is essential for avoiding chafing and discomfort
How to make a homemade pocket pussy: tips and tricks
● Fill a cylindrical tube with soft material and lots of lube = voila, homemade fleshlight!
● Don’t use sharp materials or a tube that is too small for your penis
● Try not to use items that you are going to be re-using in your everyday life, for obvious reasons
● You can even add beads to your homemade pocket pussy for enhanced textures and sensations!